“Perhaps you’ve wondered if you’ll ever learn to think differently. Or if you’ll ever stop reacting in a negative manner. Maybe you want your self-esteem to be based on God’s view of you, rather than on your past, or on the words of another person. You’re tired of letting external or old circumstances define you.” (Pg 177)
I have thought this way more than I am proud of. I hav wondered if I will ever change, if I would ever think differently. I even had the thought that I may always be stuck like this.
When I think like that I get sad and depressed. But Jesus say’s in His word that “Behold, I make all things new…” (Revelation 21:5)
If the Lord say’s all things new, than why not me? Nothing is to hard for God. He loves us, so He shows us how to be made new in Him. It isn’t always easy, but nothing worth while truly is.
~There Is Death That Leads To Life~
Death is not a word you usually think of when you think about your thought life. But this death isn’t about physical death, but rather death to the old ways. “That’s a strong word, but it clearly defines a passing away of the old so that the new can emerge.” (Pg 177)
To do this it take conscious effort. We need to put our heart and not just our minds into it. We need to be willing to replace the old habit with a healthy new one. You can just try and stop the bad habit. But if it isn’t replaced by something better, you will just find that you started it up the bad habit again.
So as with habits, the same with thoughts. You need to replace the negative thought with a better one, and it needs to be continuous. Try giving thanks or praising the Lord. Even saying a verse in your heard or out loud.
As Dr. Caroline Leaf says, start everyday with thanksgiving, praise, and worship. Than actively reach in replacing the negative thought with a better one.
A example is like this. The negative thought “I can’t do this.” To a better thought “I will try my best, and be proud of myself that I did it.” It doesn’t matter the end outcome as long as you tried.
You change the thoughts of your mind, you change the thoughts of your heart. “Margaret Thatcher once said, “Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch you habits, for they become your character. And watch your character, for it becomes your destiny!” (Pg 177)
(The Mended Heart by Suzanne Eller. Chapter 8 Page 177 underlined)